Coping with tweens - early school years

YOUR child is entering a new world of concentrated exposure to peers, coupled with social and study pressures. Much care and understanding is required during this unique period of growth and adjustment in your child's life.


Ages: 7-8
Levels: Primary 1/2

• Primary 1s and 2s, especially boys, can be daredevils who will take risks and forget to think about safety.
• Lots of energy but still need quiet time to rest…they must be taught to accept this rest time as part of their daily schedule.  

How to help:

• Read a book together. Discuss afterward the characters, plot and ending.
• Work together on a shopping list and let him help picking the items at the supermarket. If there are any discount coupons (from newspapers, promotional leaflets), have the child to help compute the savings from the total bill.
• Play simple games using addition and subtraction problems or activities that test his observational skills.
• Make a calendar together and encourage your child to keep a record of his key activities on a daily basis. Go through with them at the end of the day to help develop discipline. 

Ages: 8-9
Levels: Primary 2/3

• Primary 2s and 3s often begin to show preferences in their activities. Maybe a favourite subject in school? A preferred sports?
• Preoccupation with sedentary activities, such as computer games. Of course, this may be evident earlier .

How to help:

• Help your child to find other books written by their favorite authors.
• Allow them to share their newfound sense of humour, even if you've heard the jokes before. Share yours as well for them to appreciate the lighter side of you.
• Encourage children to show off their improved writing skills in letters (or emails) to grandparents, uncles and aunties.
• Make up word problems on daily practical problems that include addition and subtraction.
• Start fun collections such as postcards, stamps, etc. Some of their ideas may startle you so discuss beforehand!
• Set time limits to sedentary activities, and encourage them to balance it with physical activities.
• Engage them to find out about favourite subjects, sports, etc. If you are a football fan, now could be a time to get them interested if they are not already .

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