Letter from Anastasia: No longer afraid due to her "guardian angels"

"I TOLD her on the first day she came: if you won’t give up on yourself, I will not give up on you. It was difficult as I did feel like giving up many times. But from what I see, Anastasia has blossomed into a stable young lady.” -  Muhd. Tawin and wife Wardah Hat summarising their one-and-a-half year experience with foster child Anastasia.

Both Mr Muhd. Tawin and Mdm Wardah Hat are part of the Singapore Ministry of Community Development, Youth & Sports fostering programme. This story is part of a series, "Fathers with Big Hearts" by the Centre for Fathering (CFF) featuring selected foster fathers detailing a part of their poignant experience with their foster child. In this installment, we see it from the vantage point of the child.

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The Tays' "little starfishes" with "great potential"

"IT is not by chance that we are doing this. Meiyi and Weiming are like little starfishes we pick as we stroll along the seaside,” says Cindy Lim. She and her husband Christopher Tay have been foster parents to two children since March 2009. The "Fathers with Big Hearts" series by the Centre for Fathering (CFF) features selected foster parents who are part of the Singapore Ministry of Community Development, Youth & Sports fostering programme.

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Fathers with big hearts!

FOSTERING provides a temporary, safe home for children in crisis. As defined by the Singapore Ministry of Community Development, Youth & Sports that has oversight of this important role, being a foster parent is usually a short-term arrangement to meet the emergency care needs of a child. But make no mistake about it...the foster parent's active (not passive) act of opening one's home and providing basic needs like food, clothing, and shelter is a proactive statement of nurturing, advocacy, and love. The Centre for Fathering (CFF) takes a summary look at fostering in Singapore, and in the weeks to come, will feature a few of these big-hearted individuals and their poignant journeys in fostering.

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Family rules (concluding Part II)

CFFthumbnail(1).jpgHUMAN beings are rule makers and rule followers. Rules make it possible for us to live in communities without getting in each other’s way or violating each other’s rights and boundaries. A family rule refers to any behaviour pattern that is indigenous to a family system or relationship. In Part 1, the Centre for Fathering (CFF) indicated four types of family rule patterns, discussing two of them. This is the concluding part of the CFF discussion.

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