Blog Entries for Trevor Tan

"Family bonding, where got time?"

trevorgc@gmail.com — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:00:00 +0100

"Daddy, what time are you coming home? You have not being eating dinner with us for the last 3 days." My no. 3, Rachel asked.

"Daddy, you have not taken me on our one-on-one this month, when are we going?" my son, Reuben complained.

"Dear, when you are taking me on our couple time? We have not done it for months." My wife, San San said with a slightly demanding tone.

These are remarks and questions that I have struggled with from time to [...]

Fathering - Help!! What do I do?

trevorgc@gmail.com — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 16:00:00 +0100

As a young man, I wanted to be a father by age 30. Indeed, God gave me the desires of my heart and my first born arrived before my 30th birthday. That was some 15 years ago. The first things I learnt as a father was to clean my daughter’s “poo”!! Before, that I thought it was so ‘fun’ having a baby to ‘play’ with and this was when I realized that becoming a father was ‘hard work’.

My father was a good man, who works hard to provide for the needs of our family. He was a [...]

Connecting with your teens

trevorgc@gmail.com — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 16:30:12 +0100

Two years back when our first born turned 13, we began struggling to connect with her. Increasingly, we found that we were not able to relate to her and that she was resisting us on many issues. She was just shutting us out of her world, preferring to stay at home rather than go out with the family if given a choice. She would rather spend time talking on the phone, on the MSN or Friendster with her friends than hanging out [...]